The one where she changes her mind

by DaniGirl on September 20, 2006 · 16 comments

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So I’ve made a decision. Isn’t it exciting? I’ve drawn a line in my sandbox.

No ads on this blog.

Or at least, no ads on this blog TODAY. Maybe in some other circumstance, maybe with some other set of conditions. But not today, not right now. Hey, it’s not much of a stand, but it’s mine.

I’m not as morally opposed to advertising as Andrea. I don’t think advertising is evil, in and of itself. But when I started reading stuff like Jen’s post on GreenStone Media on Literary Mama, I started having second thoughts. And Ann’s post reminded me of the reasons that I love and value blogging and being a part of the blog community and why I got so addicted to it in the first place. And finally, and perhaps most influentially, Marla’s polemic on the subject tipped me over the edge.

Hey, do you think it’s a coincidence that these smart ladies are my co-presenters in the Motherlode conference next month? It’s not. These are women I admire and respect, women whose opinion I value, women who have been very careful not to criticize or even try to overtly influence my earlier decision to run ads on this blog. In fact, they’ve said they don’t really care whether I run ads or not, and that the choice is all mine, and that they’ll still respect me in the morning. How’s that for peer pressure?

I could link to dozens of other smart, well-written and knowledgeable posts on this same subject that I’ve read over the past two weeks. Some supported the idea of advertising on blogs, some opposed it, and some were indifferent. But for me, it came down to an idea Marla planted in my brain, and ties back to Ann’s exploration of blogging versus traditional media.

This blog is about me. (And you know how I love it when it’s all about me.) It’s my version of the story of us, of Beloved and Tristan and Simon and the other characters who populate our universe. It’s personal, sometimes painfully so, and I just don’t feel right about turning a profit on that. Maybe someday when a publisher offers me a contract, I’ll feel different. But right now, $50 or $60 a month isn’t the right price. I don’t bear any ill will to people who choose to run ads, and frankly I’m not all that perturbed by ads that don’t flash or blink or interfere with my reading of the content I came looking for. And maybe some day in the future, I’ll be swayed the other way.

To be honest, there were other mitigating factors in this decision. Most of them had to do with logistics. I’d have to change my layout around more than I expected, for one. And you know how I feel about change. And then there were issues about how exactly the cash would wend it’s way into my pocket, and that was more complicated than I expected.

If I were a different type of blogger, I’d have ads plastered all over the place. If I were writing about current events or pop culture or technology, I’d have no hesitation whatsoever. But this is me, and my life, and my family, and it just doesn’t seem right to put that up for sale.

The blog isn’t just about me, it is me. When I started doing this early in 2005, I did it for two reasons: to flex my creative muscles, and to record the minutia of our daily lives. Life is so crazy, so hectic, so fast-paced, that it’s so easy to forget what it was like, and I love it when I stumble across something in my own archives that perfectly captures a moment – a moment that would have been completely lost if I hadn’t taken a moment to write it down.

And then you all started showing up, and it became about you, too. One of things I most love now is the conversation that goes on. I love that you’ll weigh in on the debate, but I also love the fact that you will laugh with me and cry with me and celebrate with me. This blog is a gift (background music swells to a crescendo) and I don’t think I can put a price on that. I will happily share it with you for free, but I just don’t feel right about selling it. Ya know?

There are a lot of posts out there right now discussing the commercialization of the blogosphere, and in particular the momosphere, and how politics and popularity may or may not be changing the blog world. These are important conversations, and I wish I had the time or energy or focus to contribute to them more coherently. But this is the best I can offer. This is my blog, and these are my reasons.

As always, I invite your discussion on this. All the other cool kids are talking about it, and dontcha wanna be cool?


{ 16 comments… read them below or add one }

1 JoJo September 20, 2006 at 3:25 pm

*standing and clapping (sadly, with both hands)*
It wouldn’t change my opinion of you or your blog if you had ads. I would still read and enjoy it with my morning cup of coffee. I love that you invite us into your life.
But bravo for you for making a decision! This morning I spent 30 minutes lying in bed trying to decide what I was going to pack for lunch. I decided on chick pea salad and I am sure it will fabulous when I get home tonight to find it by the front door next to my pass card.

2 JoJo September 20, 2006 at 3:25 pm

*standing and clapping (sadly, with both hands)*
It wouldn’t change my opinion of you or your blog if you had ads. I would still read and enjoy it with my morning cup of coffee. I love that you invite us into your life.
But bravo for you for making a decision! This morning I spent 30 minutes lying in bed trying to decide what I was going to pack for lunch. I decided on chick pea salad and I am sure it will fabulous when I get home tonight to find it by the front door next to my pass card.

3 scatteredmom September 20, 2006 at 6:48 pm

I think that you said it perfectly. You have to do what works best for you, and I can completely understand your reasons for not having ads.
I myself am not sure if I would, it would seriously depend on what it was. However, if it required me to change my content then absolutely not.

4 scatteredmom September 20, 2006 at 6:48 pm

I think that you said it perfectly. You have to do what works best for you, and I can completely understand your reasons for not having ads.
I myself am not sure if I would, it would seriously depend on what it was. However, if it required me to change my content then absolutely not.

5 Jen September 20, 2006 at 7:33 pm

I totally respect your reasons and would totally respect it if you changed your mind tomorrow! I’ll be a faithful reader of yours no matter what Dani. Hugs.
Jen

6 Jen September 20, 2006 at 7:33 pm

I totally respect your reasons and would totally respect it if you changed your mind tomorrow! I’ll be a faithful reader of yours no matter what Dani. Hugs.
Jen

7 Sharon September 20, 2006 at 8:07 pm

Your one of my morning stops when I’m having that 2nd cuppa tea (only today tea ended up being at 3 in the afternoon) Good one you for not advertising. And it is up to you what you do with your site.
I’ve never been big on having alot of stuff on mine. Hell i don’t even have a site meter. I just want to write my thoughts out and if no one reads it so be it. It’s for ME and ME alone. And you my dear were the one that introduced to it. Your one of my Bloggie hero’s.
Hugs

8 Sharon September 20, 2006 at 8:07 pm

Your one of my morning stops when I’m having that 2nd cuppa tea (only today tea ended up being at 3 in the afternoon) Good one you for not advertising. And it is up to you what you do with your site.
I’ve never been big on having alot of stuff on mine. Hell i don’t even have a site meter. I just want to write my thoughts out and if no one reads it so be it. It’s for ME and ME alone. And you my dear were the one that introduced to it. Your one of my Bloggie hero’s.
Hugs

9 Marla September 20, 2006 at 10:13 pm

Hahaha! Same spam as me! Hahahaha! See?!
Oh, stop me. Don’t worry Dani, I’d like you no matter what. Feel free to bug me in person about it next month!

10 Marla September 20, 2006 at 10:13 pm

Hahaha! Same spam as me! Hahahaha! See?!
Oh, stop me. Don’t worry Dani, I’d like you no matter what. Feel free to bug me in person about it next month!

11 andrea from the fishbowl September 21, 2006 at 4:14 am

When I first saw the SPAM my first thought was “THAT MARLA IS SUCH A TROUBLEMAKER.” Then I realized it wasn’t her. This is too weird.

12 andrea from the fishbowl September 21, 2006 at 4:14 am

When I first saw the SPAM my first thought was “THAT MARLA IS SUCH A TROUBLEMAKER.” Then I realized it wasn’t her. This is too weird.

13 nancy September 21, 2006 at 6:45 pm

I am not cool enough, nor do I really care if I am a kool kat or not. I am me, just me. Just like you are you, and just like that spaz Marla is Marla, etc…and that’s what I love best about everybody.
and LOL at Andrea being Andrea by making me laugh that she thought M was being a troublemaker.

14 nancy September 21, 2006 at 6:45 pm

I am not cool enough, nor do I really care if I am a kool kat or not. I am me, just me. Just like you are you, and just like that spaz Marla is Marla, etc…and that’s what I love best about everybody.
and LOL at Andrea being Andrea by making me laugh that she thought M was being a troublemaker.

15 Ann D September 22, 2006 at 2:14 pm

I think if you use the word “ad” in a post, you must win the spam lottery. Who knew? Eric All Spacey must be the King of Spam.
Dani, you know you could have ads tattooed on that pregnant belly of yours and everyone would not judge you. Now if you tried to pass those ads off as editorial content — “What, I’m teaching my baby to read prenatally!” — I might have a wee chat with you. But that’s just me. 🙂

16 Ann D September 22, 2006 at 2:14 pm

I think if you use the word “ad” in a post, you must win the spam lottery. Who knew? Eric All Spacey must be the King of Spam.
Dani, you know you could have ads tattooed on that pregnant belly of yours and everyone would not judge you. Now if you tried to pass those ads off as editorial content — “What, I’m teaching my baby to read prenatally!” — I might have a wee chat with you. But that’s just me. 🙂

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