By choosing not to decide, does that mean I’ve made a choice?

There’s an old Rush song that goes, “If you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice.”

I seem to be quite good at living my life like this. We didn’t choose to have Simon; he just kind of appeared in our lives. We hadn’t set out to buy a new house when we stumbled across this one back in 2003, but as soon as we saw it, we knew it would be ours. I didn’t even choose to be in this field, in this job… I just ended up here, somehow. Happily, on all three counts.

And so it goes. We got a call from our fertility clinic, reminding me that I had forgotten to fill out the consent forms for another year of frozen embryo storage (back in July. Oops.) So I was on the phone with the administrator, and we were talking about the move that the clinic will be making in the spring, from being part of the Ottawa Hospital to being a free-standing independent clinic. And I was asking, mostly out of curiousity, about how that would impact people who were planning to cycle this summer, and she said it probably wouldn’t have much impact at all, but I should check with my doctor to be sure – and did I want her to put me through to my doctor? And I shrugged and said, ‘Sure, I guess.’

And that’s how I ended up with an appointment. In April. To start a cycle that will ultimately resolve my greatest ongoing angst, what to do with our one little frosty.

I guess we’re going to go for it.

Yikes.

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Author: DaniGirl

Canadian. storyteller, photographer, mom to 3. Professional dilettante.

42 thoughts on “By choosing not to decide, does that mean I’ve made a choice?”

  9. This is fanfuckingtastic!! Now, can you only convince my hubby so we can tag along to do the same??
    I am SO ready for YOU to do this.
    Oh, er, are you?

  10. This is fanfuckingtastic!! Now, can you only convince my hubby so we can tag along to do the same??
    I am SO ready for YOU to do this.
    Oh, er, are you?

  13. Well Dani, I know you are a believer in fate, and this is the motherload of fate….literally!
    I am so very happy you are doing what you have had in your heart for so long.
    Lemme know when to start crossing things :~)

  14. Well Dani, I know you are a believer in fate, and this is the motherload of fate….literally!
    I am so very happy you are doing what you have had in your heart for so long.
    Lemme know when to start crossing things :~)

  15. You didn’;t have to decide you let fate lead you where it may. I’m a big believer in when the time is write it will happen.
    SO
    Right ON Dani!
    I’m sure things will go your way…
    And Sharon sounds better than Marla. Don’t ya think?
    😉

  16. You didn’;t have to decide you let fate lead you where it may. I’m a big believer in when the time is write it will happen.
    SO
    Right ON Dani!
    I’m sure things will go your way…
    And Sharon sounds better than Marla. Don’t ya think?
    😉

  21. Hey back at ya Dani. Yay for you and your family!
    I’ll send some girlie dust your way -Lords knows I seem to have some. 😉 Now if you could send some boy dust my way, we’ll be square.
    Love,
    Donna

  22. Hey back at ya Dani. Yay for you and your family!
    I’ll send some girlie dust your way -Lords knows I seem to have some. 😉 Now if you could send some boy dust my way, we’ll be square.
    Love,
    Donna

  23. Dani!
    How wonderful! I had just been wonering about you and Nancy on your thoughts of “moving” your frosties. The thought came because we are in a similar boat…only with 10+ vials of Steve’s frozen specimen.
    Good for you to have made up your mind…GO FOR IT!!!
    Brenda

  24. Dani!
    How wonderful! I had just been wonering about you and Nancy on your thoughts of “moving” your frosties. The thought came because we are in a similar boat…only with 10+ vials of Steve’s frozen specimen.
    Good for you to have made up your mind…GO FOR IT!!!
    Brenda

  35. I must have been to busy to read yesterday…missed this. Congrats on your decision and good luck. I’m very happy for you both…I mean all.

  36. I must have been to busy to read yesterday…missed this. Congrats on your decision and good luck. I’m very happy for you both…I mean all.

  41. Missed this one too – good luck and great choice!!!
    Although all those names were great, Nicole Paulina would seem a fitting tribute the my bro & I, don’t you think?

  42. Missed this one too – good luck and great choice!!!
    Although all those names were great, Nicole Paulina would seem a fitting tribute the my bro & I, don’t you think?

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