By choosing not to decide, does that mean I’ve made a choice?

by DaniGirl on February 8, 2006 · 42 comments

in Frostie, Infertility

There’s an old Rush song that goes, “If you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice.”

I seem to be quite good at living my life like this. We didn’t choose to have Simon; he just kind of appeared in our lives. We hadn’t set out to buy a new house when we stumbled across this one back in 2003, but as soon as we saw it, we knew it would be ours. I didn’t even choose to be in this field, in this job… I just ended up here, somehow. Happily, on all three counts.

And so it goes. We got a call from our fertility clinic, reminding me that I had forgotten to fill out the consent forms for another year of frozen embryo storage (back in July. Oops.) So I was on the phone with the administrator, and we were talking about the move that the clinic will be making in the spring, from being part of the Ottawa Hospital to being a free-standing independent clinic. And I was asking, mostly out of curiousity, about how that would impact people who were planning to cycle this summer, and she said it probably wouldn’t have much impact at all, but I should check with my doctor to be sure – and did I want her to put me through to my doctor? And I shrugged and said, ‘Sure, I guess.’

And that’s how I ended up with an appointment. In April. To start a cycle that will ultimately resolve my greatest ongoing angst, what to do with our one little frosty.

I guess we’re going to go for it.

Yikes.


{ 42 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Renee February 8, 2006 at 8:10 pm

Ooh, Dani, I got chills reading about that! How exciting! you’re making me want another one. Okay, let me stop . .

2 Renee February 8, 2006 at 8:10 pm

Ooh, Dani, I got chills reading about that! How exciting! you’re making me want another one. Okay, let me stop . .

3 Marla Good February 8, 2006 at 8:21 pm

Me too! I have shivers for you! It was the pictures of Josephine, wasn’t it? I think Marla Donders has a nice ring to it.

4 Marla Good February 8, 2006 at 8:21 pm

Me too! I have shivers for you! It was the pictures of Josephine, wasn’t it? I think Marla Donders has a nice ring to it.

5 JoJo February 8, 2006 at 8:57 pm

Oh my god I have just peed my pants!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Yay!

6 JoJo February 8, 2006 at 8:57 pm

Oh my god I have just peed my pants!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Yay!

7 Nancy February 8, 2006 at 9:05 pm

Yep, I got the spine-shivers too. Fingers crossed for you!

8 Nancy February 8, 2006 at 9:05 pm

Yep, I got the spine-shivers too. Fingers crossed for you!

9 nancy February 8, 2006 at 9:06 pm

This is fanfuckingtastic!! Now, can you only convince my hubby so we can tag along to do the same??
I am SO ready for YOU to do this.
Oh, er, are you?

10 nancy February 8, 2006 at 9:06 pm

This is fanfuckingtastic!! Now, can you only convince my hubby so we can tag along to do the same??
I am SO ready for YOU to do this.
Oh, er, are you?

11 twinmomplusone February 8, 2006 at 9:32 pm

congrats on resolving this dangling issue in your life, wishing you well
did you decide this on your own right there on teh phone without beloved around?

12 twinmomplusone February 8, 2006 at 9:32 pm

congrats on resolving this dangling issue in your life, wishing you well
did you decide this on your own right there on teh phone without beloved around?

13 Snack Mommy February 8, 2006 at 10:42 pm

Well Dani, I know you are a believer in fate, and this is the motherload of fate….literally!
I am so very happy you are doing what you have had in your heart for so long.
Lemme know when to start crossing things :~)

14 Snack Mommy February 8, 2006 at 10:42 pm

Well Dani, I know you are a believer in fate, and this is the motherload of fate….literally!
I am so very happy you are doing what you have had in your heart for so long.
Lemme know when to start crossing things :~)

15 SilverCreek Mom February 9, 2006 at 12:52 am

You didn’;t have to decide you let fate lead you where it may. I’m a big believer in when the time is write it will happen.
SO
Right ON Dani!
I’m sure things will go your way…
And Sharon sounds better than Marla. Don’t ya think?
πŸ˜‰

16 SilverCreek Mom February 9, 2006 at 12:52 am

You didn’;t have to decide you let fate lead you where it may. I’m a big believer in when the time is write it will happen.
SO
Right ON Dani!
I’m sure things will go your way…
And Sharon sounds better than Marla. Don’t ya think?
πŸ˜‰

17 Suzanne February 9, 2006 at 1:15 am

Oh my gosh. And wow. Good luck!

18 Suzanne February 9, 2006 at 1:15 am

Oh my gosh. And wow. Good luck!

19 kris February 9, 2006 at 2:00 am

Best of luck!

20 kris February 9, 2006 at 2:00 am

Best of luck!

21 Donna February 9, 2006 at 3:26 am

Hey back at ya Dani. Yay for you and your family!
I’ll send some girlie dust your way -Lords knows I seem to have some. πŸ˜‰ Now if you could send some boy dust my way, we’ll be square.
Love,
Donna

22 Donna February 9, 2006 at 3:26 am

Hey back at ya Dani. Yay for you and your family!
I’ll send some girlie dust your way -Lords knows I seem to have some. πŸ˜‰ Now if you could send some boy dust my way, we’ll be square.
Love,
Donna

23 Momsey February 9, 2006 at 3:42 am

Dani!
How wonderful! I had just been wonering about you and Nancy on your thoughts of “moving” your frosties. The thought came because we are in a similar boat…only with 10+ vials of Steve’s frozen specimen.
Good for you to have made up your mind…GO FOR IT!!!
Brenda

24 Momsey February 9, 2006 at 3:42 am

Dani!
How wonderful! I had just been wonering about you and Nancy on your thoughts of “moving” your frosties. The thought came because we are in a similar boat…only with 10+ vials of Steve’s frozen specimen.
Good for you to have made up your mind…GO FOR IT!!!
Brenda

25 M-A February 9, 2006 at 7:58 am

WHOOHOOO!!!
M-A

26 M-A February 9, 2006 at 7:58 am

WHOOHOOO!!!
M-A

27 Kristina February 9, 2006 at 10:31 am

I know I only know you through blogland, but I am so freakin’ excited right now. Huzzah and felicitations to you!! πŸ™‚

28 Kristina February 9, 2006 at 10:31 am

I know I only know you through blogland, but I am so freakin’ excited right now. Huzzah and felicitations to you!! πŸ™‚

29 BeachMama February 9, 2006 at 11:18 am

Wow, what excitement!! I guess you won’t have to wonder any longer what to do with your frosties πŸ™‚ Will be following along.

30 BeachMama February 9, 2006 at 11:18 am

Wow, what excitement!! I guess you won’t have to wonder any longer what to do with your frosties πŸ™‚ Will be following along.

31 Beanie Baby February 9, 2006 at 12:28 pm

Oh my god! Congratulations, and good luck!

32 Beanie Baby February 9, 2006 at 12:28 pm

Oh my god! Congratulations, and good luck!

33 andrea from the fishbowl February 9, 2006 at 2:10 pm

I think “frosty” is a great name for a kid BTW.
(eek!)

34 andrea from the fishbowl February 9, 2006 at 2:10 pm

I think “frosty” is a great name for a kid BTW.
(eek!)

35 Batman February 9, 2006 at 4:25 pm

I must have been to busy to read yesterday…missed this. Congrats on your decision and good luck. I’m very happy for you both…I mean all.

36 Batman February 9, 2006 at 4:25 pm

I must have been to busy to read yesterday…missed this. Congrats on your decision and good luck. I’m very happy for you both…I mean all.

37 suze February 9, 2006 at 7:05 pm

oh my goodness!!! congratulations!!!

38 suze February 9, 2006 at 7:05 pm

oh my goodness!!! congratulations!!!

39 Phantom Scribbler February 10, 2006 at 7:16 pm

How on earth did I miss this post?
All of my fingers and toes are crossed for you!

40 Phantom Scribbler February 10, 2006 at 7:16 pm

How on earth did I miss this post?
All of my fingers and toes are crossed for you!

41 The Fryman February 10, 2006 at 8:41 pm

Missed this one too – good luck and great choice!!!
Although all those names were great, Nicole Paulina would seem a fitting tribute the my bro & I, don’t you think?

42 The Fryman February 10, 2006 at 8:41 pm

Missed this one too – good luck and great choice!!!
Although all those names were great, Nicole Paulina would seem a fitting tribute the my bro & I, don’t you think?

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