A courtesy call from the Universe

by DaniGirl on August 18, 2010 · 11 comments

in Working and mothering

It went something like this:

Ring, ring.


Hello DaniGirl.

Oh, hello Universe. Nice to hear from you. What’s new?

Oh, you know, the usual. Had an impressive supernova blow out last millennium near Rigel Four, made for a pretty good show. It should get to your galaxy in about a half a billion years, but don’t sweat it just yet. In fact, that’s not why I’m calling.

Oh yeah, thanks for those amazing Northern Lights this week, they were fantastic. So anyway, what’s up?

Well, I heard you were a little stressed about the whole moving thing, and about balancing the financial responsibility of the new house. You were beginning to fret, and to wonder if maybe you should give up your part-time arrangement and go back to work full time.

Sigh, yeah. I’ve been thinking about that. In my heart, I don’t want to — but I don’t want to be house-poor either. We’ve had an unexpected extra expense, and suddenly the load will be a bit tough to bear if I’m only working four days a week.

Yeah, that’s what I wanted to talk to you about, so I ran this article in the Ottawa Citizen today, about how a recent study countered previous findings about families with working mothers, and found that “overall impact of a mother’s participation in the paid workforce on her child’s mental and social development was measured, the effect was neutral. The positives — higher family income, better child care, the mother’s improved mental health — outweighed the negatives, such as less time for mother and baby to interact.”

Thanks Universe, I appreciate you thinking of me. But whether or not I work is not really a question. I have to work, much as I’d rather be home full time. Me not working is just not an option.

But listen to this: the article goes on to say, “the best of all worlds was not when mothers of young children stayed at home full-time, but rather when they work part-time.”

You know, I’ve really been feeling that way since I started working part time last year. What else does it say?

So you work 30 hours a week, right? The article also says, “children whose mothers worked fewer than 30 hours a week benefited from the higher household income, better quality daycare, a happier home-life, plus interaction with their mother.”

No shit? The best of all worlds, you say? So in other words, I lay awake half of last night wondering and worrying about whether I should go back to work full time, and you heard me and published this article in this morning’s paper, just to help me decide?

Yep. Cuz that’s just how I roll.

Thanks Universe. It’s always nice to hear from you.

Anytime, DaniGirl. Anytime.

{ 11 comments… read them below or add one }

1 angela August 18, 2010 at 7:33 am


dear universe,
could you cut dani some slack this week? it is a little crazy in her part of it;).


2 Mr. G August 18, 2010 at 7:34 am

Lucky girl… receiving such a phone call!

And now.. what does your heart say?

3 Finola August 18, 2010 at 7:44 am

Whenever the universe calls me, it is usually to bite me in the ass πŸ˜‰
I read that article this morning too. Sounds like you are doing the perfect thing for your family.

4 scatteredmom August 18, 2010 at 9:52 am

Psst…I’ve always worked fewer than 30hrs a week since Jake was born. Totally worked for us. But then again, I have one boy, you have three. This year I took on more work and just about went stir crazy. The extra time away, the stress, etc was not worth the measly bit more I made.

Hope that you figure things out soon. πŸ™‚

5 Simon MacDonald August 18, 2010 at 10:22 am

I think you should listen to the universe. It’s pretty smart.

6 freemommiestuff August 18, 2010 at 12:18 pm

http://bit.ly/4EQ38v A courtesy call from the Universe: It went something like this.
Ring, rin… http://bit.ly/c8dKC2 http://bit.ly/5bAgvn

7 Amber August 18, 2010 at 2:46 pm

I really will say that my part-time work arrangement was made of win. My fears over being able to re-negotiate that kind of deal in my field are what’s keeping me at home right now, in large part.

8 Jen Hughes August 18, 2010 at 3:12 pm

RT @DaniGirl: On working and mothering: A courtesy call from the Universe, via the Ottawa Citizen http://tinyurl.com/25o2rs2

9 Rebecca August 18, 2010 at 7:35 pm

could you pass universe my number? I have a couple of quick questions πŸ˜‰

hope you resolve what’s best for you and your family

10 Zhu August 25, 2010 at 10:05 pm

Universe is a masculine word in French… beware of it and its advice! πŸ˜‰

11 Pam Stewart August 31, 2010 at 4:11 am

Great post, Dani. Hope the universe speaks to me when I need to make all these crazy choices in the future! Can’t wait to see all the new house pix BTW. Congrats!

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