Comments on: Coveting

By: Shannon

Shannon — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 00:06:01 +0000

I can totally, one hundred per cent relate. It is a lot harder than I thought it would be and I struggle to cope with so much on my plate every single day. I hate the feeling that a little piece of me is “lost” or “gone” now that I have kids, but I so rarely get time for myself these days, it’s a reality.

My husband and I were just joking the other day about the things we did in our 20s when we had no kids and long, restless weekends to ourselves. We used to watch TLC marathons of Trading Spaces (remember back when the show was brand new and so exciting??) all day long and sip coffee and then get dressed at 5:00 and go out for dinner so we didn’t have to cook. Ahhhh, that was the life.

By: Annie @ PhD in Parenting

Annie @ PhD in Parenting — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 02:50:09 +0000

Oh yes….time. And yet I seem to take on more and more all the time. Sigh.

By: Haley-O (Cheaty)

Haley-O (Cheaty) — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 00:44:46 +0000

You know I relate…. OH, how I relate! Apparently, we WILL have more time when they’re in school…. And we’ll miss all this. For me, it’s now 8:45pm, typical night — time for myself now that the kids are in bed, but MOUNTAINS of work to do that I didn’t have TIME for during the day because of said kids. It’s CRAZINESS, I tell you. Sigh. You know what helps? Yoga. One class a week where you are totally in there for yourself. I just did that today and it opened my eyes…. It was an amazing pocket in time and space.

By: Sharon

Sharon — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 23:15:39 +0000

I covet time too. Of COurse you know we bring it on ourselves. I went back to school and then I lacked time. BUT It doesn’t take up that much time I try to keep my classes when Nathan and Hubby are away during the day. BUT What I do covet is time with my Hubby. We hardly spend anytime together. He’s off doing on thing or another and I’m here with the kids or kid. He says it is the busiest time of our lives. I say it is the buiest time in our lives but there is a choice…a choice to slow it down and do what you want.

By: Christine LaRocque

Christine LaRocque — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 23:06:37 +0000

I know you recently read my post on something very similar, I coin this very feeling my life in the fast lane. Trying to make use of every moment in a purposeful way and yet feeling always like my wheels are turning and I’m accomplishing nothing. It sucks, it really sucks. I like you have mountains of things that I like to do outside raising my children and simply no time to do them. I’m trying to learn what really matters and focus on that for now, but it’s easier said than done. Great post!

By: Amber

Amber — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 21:59:46 +0000

This? Is the big reason that I’m not sure I want another child. I have 2 little ones and I already feel pretty busy. How much more can I really take on?

I keep telling myself it’s all worth it. Believing that I’ll look back on this time fondly is what’s seeing me through most days.

By: Mary @ Parenthood

Mary @ Parenthood — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 19:45:07 +0000

I’m just focussing on the small victories of the day. And no longer may I set myself more than one goal to accomplish for the day.

By: Christy

Christy — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 17:35:10 +0000

I ALWAYS wonder what the heck we did with all our time before kids came along!

By: Tracey

Tracey — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 16:41:08 +0000

Have you met my sister?! She is really struggling with this right now. Well, I think we all are, but your words say it perfectly. I’m going to re-read this everytime I feel like I’m the only one doing a miserable job of balancing my life!

By: Jen

Jen — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 15:33:02 +0000

I got into the bath for a leisurely half hour on Saturday while my 10 year old daughter and 5 year old son played together on the Wii downstairs. And I thought what a long way I have come from having to lay down a towel and a muslin square in the bathroom then lie my screaming few week old daughter on it just so I could take a pee.

By: Beryl

Beryl — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 15:23:51 +0000

Very well written Dani. We are much alike in that I am constantly inspired by new projects and want to try it all and be successful. I too am easily distracted and don’t always finish what I start. I am trying to learn to focus more and say “no” when it really becomes too much. I am not a mom yet but I can only imagine it getting harder and harder once we are with child. But I am also inspired by how much you ARE still able to do an contribute online even with your 3 kiddos.

By: DeuxHirondelles

DeuxHirondelles — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 14:12:41 +0000

That is the one thing I always tell parents I meet expecting their first child: You will wonder what you did with all the free time that you had before that is now filled with child-related tasks.

My spouse and I are now empty-nesters of two years…and while there is time for leisurely Sunday morning breakfasts and walks with the dogs through the woods, usually, there still aren’t enough hours in the day…so we covet our own (retired) future.

I do recognize that living in the now is much healthier, but I’m struggling with that…

By: Chantal

Chantal — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 13:39:15 +0000

oh i feel the same way. And with baby 3 on the way I find myself freaking out a little. Last night I was doing a mental list in my head of all the things that would have to wait till I am on mat leave (I am stopping work 3 weeks prior to my due date) and then I had a mini panic attack. What if this baby decides to buck the trend (both other boys were 7 days overdue) and come early. What if I don’t have time… AHHHHHHH